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Archive | October, 2014

7 Dating Deal Breakers for a Modern World

By Eric J. Leech

For 2011, deal breakers have entered a modern world. A world where lateness and temper tantrums are the least of our problems, compared to online cheaters, posers, and players. Jerks will always be around, but they can do twice as much damage when they are allowed to hide behind available technology. Today, we look at 10 dating deal breakers for a modern world.

The Form Love Note

Once upon a time, a love note was sacred. It was carefully written by hand, and usually meant something special. Today, with the introduction of copy and paste, some posers send love notes to just about every single hottie on their e-mail list. You will know these forms by their ambiguous, non-personal message, which could be aimed at anyone. If someone does not have the time to write a personal, thoughtful note about why you two should be together, they don’t have the time to be in a relationship, either.

Self Love

A recent study looking at narcissistic personalities, suggests there is a connection between compulsive self photos/self updates, and being preoccupied with themselves. These are the personality types that seem to have their cell phone glued to their hand, documenting every meal, outing, and nightly fashion show in front of their bathroom mirror. While it is a great thing to love yourself, an obsessive infatuation for ones own image and lifestyle is a red flag for a partner who may not be ready to share the limelight with anyone else.

Phone Infatuated

Workaholics have been dealt a new tool (the smart phone), allowing them to stay connected to the entire world at any given minute. There is a reason that city street light poles are being padded, and pedestrian auto accidents are on the rise. It is because these people are so infatuated with their phone, they can’t be bothered to look up to see where they are going. If you find yourself with a partner who is just a little more invested in their phone, then they are with spending time with you, they are either immature, a workaholic, or dealing with low self esteem issues, none of which make for a fun partner later down the road.

Dependence

It is common for young adults to nest longer. However, if they have given their life over to be cared for, they are probably in no position to care for anyone else. This includes men and women over 30 still living with their parents, living in an apartment paid for by their parents, or counting on friends, roommates, or loved ones to take up their slack. A good relationship requires stability. When a partner is incapable of achieving stability, they are probably incapable of maintaining a stable relationship. Dependent partners will never be your equal, and will resent you for taking care of them. Do yourself, and them, a favor. Let them find independence before taking up residence in your life.

Poser

It’s easy to get online and search for relationships. Anyone who approaches you with a photo and an impressive resume, may or may not be who they say they are. A modern deal breaker should include people who are not honest about their age, kids, and relationship status when presenting themselves online. If someone is ambiguous about their life, to the point of being dishonest, take the key out of their ignition, before they take you for a ride.

Internet Tease

The internet tease may or may not be a poser, but the important thing to consider, is they might be playing games with no real intention of taking your virtual relationship to reality. The problem with internet relationships, is they can become serious fast. People who have never met, find themselves sharing their deepest secrets and falling in love. Online dating is not a real relationship until you have spent some time with them in-person. It doesn’t matter if they live half way around the world, or nine houses down the street from you. If they avoid meeting after several attempts, they are probably not who they say they are.

Stalker

Technology has brought us the modern day stalker, who at first might not seem dangerous, but they can be. Instead of sitting outside your bedroom window, they are sending multiple text messages, chatting you up with IM every time you log onto your computer, and asking to follow your daily jaunts through the use of push notification. Push notification can be a cool tool on your phone, but in the hands of a partner who requires to know where you are at any given moment, is an indication they are mistrusting, and possibly just a little too invested in your time. Keep in mind that controlling personality types usually appear early on as a moderate form of a stalker.

Regards
Rick (Admin Manager) – Perfect Partners Team

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Excellent Service – professional match maker!

Hi Inge and Shannon

Hope that you both are doing well!

After about 6 weeks of being on Perfect Partners, I can confidently say that I wish I had joined earlier!! Despite only meeting 2 guys, the quality of character and the manner in which you paired them up with my personality was brilliant. Your professional matchmaking is excellent! Thank you very much for your efforts! Below, I have set out my feedback on both guys.

MG

Positive Feedback – Awesome person! He has such a kind, caring personality. The first time I met him, he was shy and slightly withdrawn but eased up after a while and began opening up and showed a very genuine, humble character. He is very intelligent and has tons going for him yet he remains well grounded and is able to communicate on every level. I can chat with him for hours over a variety of topics and not get bored. MG is the kind of person who is willing to go the extra mile to help anyone in need and is always trying to do the right thing. Truly an eligible bachelor, a really upmarket professional match! You guys are true match makers, you really care and don’t waste our time!

BP

Positive Feedback – I really like this guy!!! From the first time that I met him, he displayed confidence and was very much the alpha male without being overpowering! He is the type of guy who knows how to make a strong, independent woman feel like a lady. BP, is indeed humble, compassionate and kind. He has a soft heart and will do his best to make sure that I am comfortable. I must admit, I haven’t met anyone quite like him! Initially I struggled to read him and felt as if he wasn’t very interested in me. Despite that I decided to throw caution to the wind and to show him that I am interested and this seemed to make him feel more reassured. Whenever I meet BP for dinner, etc, being around him lifts my spirits and makes me happy from the inside out….kinda mushy for such a short space of time hey! lol  We have lots in common and seem to share the same beliefs in spirituality, respect, positivity, strong family values, commitment and individuality. When chatting with him, I get the feeling that he really wants to see me for who I am and isnt really fixated on my appearance and social status in terms of career etc …smart guy! I do hope that I have the opportunity to share much more with him…if not, then I am grateful to have crossed paths with such a remarkable soul! When you say you do professional singles introductions, every word is true!

Constructive Criticism – Bhupesh shouldn’t doubt himself. It’s awesome that he considers things before jumping in head first but if he over thinks things, he could lose out on something fab!

Please let me know if you receive any feedback about me that I can work with to improve myself. I would really appreciate that

 

Much love

RB

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Excellent Service – professional match maker!

Good day Inge

I know that this mail is long overdue, so for that I sincerely apologise.

Inge, I just wanted to say a huge thank you to you and the rest of the Perfect Partners Team for the professionalism shown whilst signing up with PP. Throughout the whole process PP took the time to really understand me, my needs and the type of man that I was looking for. You were patient, warm and empathetic and for that I truly thank you. Your advice enlightened me on the realities of finding a new partner and helped me to find a new direction.

Although I didn’t officially sign up with PP as I was incredibly blessed and happened to meet a wonderful man during our interview process, thanks to now being aware of what really matters and not overlooking the best option right in front of me. I still wanted to make mention of what an outstanding job PP did in trying to profile me with my ‘soul mate’ and let you know that if ever I find myself single again, I will be calling you.

Keep up the great work that you do and be assured that I am your walking advertisement to anyone who is interested in professional dating and meeting a high caliber individual. J

Thank you again.

Kind regards
Tarryn

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Another success story

Dear Shannon

Hope you keeping well.  Thought I would give you some feedback.  Derek and I are still seeing each other since March and all going well.  We went away for a holiday in October and will be away on holiday on December too, we have awesome plans and we just enjoy every moment together, never missing a beat – what a fantastic man – he is everything you said he was and more.  He is a real blessing in my life and thank you for letting our paths cross.

Kind regards
Bernice

How awesome dear Bernice!! We always think of you guys fondly and send our angels to watch over you!!  We do miss you – but sadly, that is the name of the game, people come into lives and then off they sail into the sunset, but we are ever so grateful to hear from you from time to time.

I have to chuckle – it is so true that our members have to really COMMIT to this process and go with the flow and patience is key – for so long Derek never took us seriously, then one day he said “this is it, what must I do NOW!?” then he really put effort into it and bang!! there we have a perfect match!  We are smiling! You make a lovely couple!!

Love and light as always, and enjoy those holidays and adventures, every moment is precious!

Fond Regards
Shannon, Inge, Rick and the Team

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